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She didn’t want to come to my place anymore: “I want to go to a dinner” / “I want you to take me to the movies” You have to push for sex always and you have to get your LMR skills up to level.
Read some more thoughts on pushing for sex in my article on the Power Shift After Sex: This fits in with being a lover rather than a provider.
Trying to repair your mistakes will likely make you break your frame and come across as needy. You do not want to be put into the provider role even if you’re looking for a LTR (long term relationship).
Even if you manage to “repair” a situation you will have lost some of your power in the process and your relationship with her will never be the same again. If she sees you as a provider, she will make you wait for sex and try to get you to spend on her and eventually she will find another man to fulfill the lover role.
You are better off investing the time you spend trying to convince this one girl that’s not interested in you in finding 10 other girls that are.
In fact the harder you try to convince that girl the worse you make it.
But if you fucked things up with a girl, you are really better off forgetting about the whole affair and moving on to the next girl, where you can start off with a clean slate. Over the past year I fucked up a few times and lost some really cool girls.
Examples of fuck ups: Some fuck ups can be corrected, if they are not too big and not too often, but once you reach a threshold and she classifies you as undesirable or unsuited, it’s game over.
I visited some really poor countries and sometimes it was tempting to just pay for things.I made this mistake a few times and I always paid for it dearly.Like that last time, I had already banged a new girl and had a regular coming over later at night, so I was a little bit lazy with my current date.I got her to my room but during her LMR routine I got sick of it and thought: “Whatever, I’ll get her next time”.She interpreted this as me not being sufficiently sexual and sure enough next time I had a hard time getting her to meet up again.