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For example, manipulation and game playing; trying to find the right "strategy" to get and possess the partner; jockeying around for control, and so forth.Generally, we learn to associate intensity of such feelings with "real love."Even though most people don't really enjoy being caught up in all this, most learn to accept it as part of "normal" love relationships.Few realize it, because our culture offers little alternative.And that's a big problem, because adolescent romance is incompatible with building an adult love relationship.(And that can lead to affairs, as I wrote about in a previous post).So - we've become conditioned to expect a struggle to control and possess; or to submit and surrender.
That's a part of normal developmental experience for hormone-driven teenagers.That bursting forth of new emotions and desires around being "in love" is so intoxicating because that's often then when you feel you're at your best - in your most alive and passionate state.In effect, But we don't know how to evolve this excitement into a lasting form after the new person becomes familiar, or ceases to be a challenge to win over.Take a look at some typical features of adolescent romance: Short-term intense arousal from a new partner.Infatuation and idealization of the new love, often followed by deflation and feelings of loss.