“The therapist helped us understand what’s normal—or rather, healthy—and what’s not.
For instance, I grew up where screaming was normal in the house.”“I wanted to make a good-faith effort,” she added, “and I believe in him as a good person.” The phrase “good-faith effort”—or something similar—is repeated often by uncertain couples, along with the notion of giving the relationship “one last try.”Some professionals have less patience for unmarried partners in troubled longterm, live-in relationships.
“People who are ‘just dating’ rarely come to see a couples therapist.”When unmarried couples consult Ziff, she does not view them as any less serious than couples a generation or so earlier, who were quicker to marry and less likely to cohabit or date for long periods of time without marrying.
Instead, she views these unwed monogamists as a population hyperaware of the risks of tying the knot.
Of course, most young people today consider relationships of more than five years or so almost like a marriage.
“It’s a chi-chi, fun thing to do, to have a therapist,” she says. will not discriminate against any individual on account of race, color, national origin, gender, age, mental or physical disability, sexual orientation, citizenship, marital status, gender identity (or expression), language spoken, immigration status and any other protected class. Box 60401 Fort Myers, FL 33906 The On-Call Crisis Response Unit provides crisis counseling 365 days per year at area hospitals, medical professionals offices, and our rape crisis center for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.Should you need special accomodations, please call (239) 939-3112. All services provided to victims of domestic violence and their children and survivors of sexual assault, dating violence, stalking and human trafficking are available free of charge. Hendry and Glades Counties can call our domestic violence hotline toll-free at 1-800-500-1119 or our sexual assault hotline toll-free at 1-888-956-7273 or email us - [email protected] Staff provides this services from am until pm Monday through Friday.“Let’s say the average marriage is lasting roughly seven and a half years,” she says, “and roughly 40 percent of first marriages, and 60 percent of second marriages, end in divorce.So almost everybody coming out of college or high school knows people whose marriages have failed.