Then I did my best to attend the meet with a totally open mind, coming as close to pretending as I could that I was just wandering through that Starbucks or bookstore and 'ran' into the person I was supposed to meet. I regularly meet women with 150 mile for several locations I frequent.It made an immediate difference and I began to see these men in a totally different light. Vulf I bump into unexpectedly fascinating people this way-A scary-looking poet, funny sailor, shy musician and a gentle cop. But the former probably wouldn't happen in "real life" dating. I would never get to meet any of these woman without the internet."It saves the are you available? If you are fishing you are broadcasting your available (even if your not).Just a quick reply back to ignis fatuus: I had to laugh when I read what you said about being easily forgotten. I worked at a job where we were hiring a new person.Keep in mind, this was a SMALL office with only me and 4 other people.
I totally agree with your concept of the internet dating being like microwaving food and that it's not natural.Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. Dynomite, one thing you're missing is that the people like me who are average to below average looking, or shy, or live in places like Orange County, CA, where the competition is so ridiculously great looking, never get any dates at all.The ones that people like me get, once every 2 years or less, happen to be either a neighbor or someone I worked with that got to know me and like me that way and many times, these are not people I'd ever seek out on the Internet with the # of negative qualities they possessed.I met him when he 1st interviewed with us and then when we hired him, he actually introduced himself & asked if we had met before and he was serious. I always joked about it with him after that and would constantly say, "Hi, I'm ____, have we met before? Of course it's bassackward and I wouldn't go so far as to call it "efficient",either.If we used the pure logic of choosing a relationship partner based solely on mutual interests, compatible life philosophies, similar values, a well turned written phrase, and threw "chemistry" "mutual attraction" "spark"...whatever! But we haven't evolved ( or maybe DEvolved is the right word) that far yer.