Dating a divorced older man with kids
Don’t worry about money Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.19. Forgive immediately..focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. Gerald Rogers’ article stirred a wide variety of feelings among people across the globe. We read letters from women in Malaysia comforting women in England.The unity and compassion among people which this article brought forth was a beautiful experience to witness. One common idea reverberated among many of the healthy responses: If we make the conscious decision to daily place our spouse’s desires and needs above our own, and that’s reciprocated, the marriage will succeed. The advice in this article can be applied to both genders. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it.Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.16. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time. Truth is, If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love.
Be vulnerable…You don’t have to have it all together. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward.
After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had:1. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. Protect your own heart Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance.
Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife.
Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing.(Okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point.
Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids.